" I find him cute but I'm confused."
" We love each other but we aint happy together."
Indecisiveness in a relationship leads to frustration and a decision made in the hurry always ends up in a disaster. When it comes to getting into a relationship with a person, hundred of questions might crop up in your mind . Half of them will be resolved and other half would go unawnsered leaving us in the state of confusion. We suffer from indecisiveness because our approach is not right. If you are loving someone for a reason, you are making the biggest mistake of your life. Loving someone doesnt need a reason. All the reasons would vanish someday and so will your love. When we will be able to understand the difference between " love " and " liking ", we will also be able to find out the reason that forms the basis of our relationship.
If the reason is love, no matter what a relationship would go through it will always find back its ground but if the reasons are all materialistic, then neither the eventuality of relationship can be predicted nor the genuine happiness can ever be obtained. People often confuse infatuation with love and make foolish decisions. The feeling which never changes with time is the true feeling and is the feeling we call love. Love is something that cultivates over a time. It might begin with a normal attraction leading to friendship and then love but it grows only with time. When you get into a relationship with lots of doubts , you are getting a hint from the GOD - it's nothing else but an infatuation. When it is love, there is an acceptance of imperfection and all other reasons seems to become immaterial.
A commitment to oneself can only lead to one's commitment to a relationship and to another person. Merely being in a relationship doesnt neccessiate the need for commitment . True commitment comes from the heart and it must be allowed to happen naturally. When you find someone with whom everything seems perfect , even though he/ she doesnt match your "must" list then it is a clear indication of being in love. It is always good to marry someone you truly love but love and marriage are two totally different things. Where love brings warmth, passion and meaning to life , there marriage brings responsibility and security. The decision of marriage should be be made with open eyes because it shapes your future and your life.
Whether it's a love marriage or arranged, it needs a commitment , trust and lot of understanding. If love is the foundation of marriage, then even little adjustments seems sweet gesture of love towards each other. But sometimes a marriage feels "right" even when there is no strong love , such is called an arranged marriage. In arranged marriages, love usually grows after marriage but there is always a risk of failure because adjustments would be easy only when the person would be in love with the other person otherwise it becomes a mere duty .
When ever you plan to settle down , the decision would never seem to be an easy one but what ever way you choose to go, make sure you do listen to your gut feelings and let love be the only reason for your relationship.
Love ,
Geetu :-)
1 comment:
hi there, excuse the intrusion.. it's our common friend ranshu who brought my attention to your blog.. and i must say i'm glad she did. your blog certainly makes an enlightening read. these days few people seem to have a clear understanding of difference between love and liking, and fewer are able to put it across with such a finesse. keep writing!
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