" I find him cute but I'm confused."
" We love each other but we aint happy together."
Indecisiveness in a relationship leads to frustration and a decision made in the hurry always ends up in a disaster. When it comes to getting into a relationship with a person, hundred of questions might crop up in your mind . Half of them will be resolved and other half would go unawnsered leaving us in the state of confusion. We suffer from indecisiveness because our approach is not right. If you are loving someone for a reason, you are making the biggest mistake of your life. Loving someone doesnt need a reason. All the reasons would vanish someday and so will your love. When we will be able to understand the difference between " love " and " liking ", we will also be able to find out the reason that forms the basis of our relationship.
If the reason is love, no matter what a relationship would go through it will always find back its ground but if the reasons are all materialistic, then neither the eventuality of relationship can be predicted nor the genuine happiness can ever be obtained. People often confuse infatuation with love and make foolish decisions. The feeling which never changes with time is the true feeling and is the feeling we call love. Love is something that cultivates over a time. It might begin with a normal attraction leading to friendship and then love but it grows only with time. When you get into a relationship with lots of doubts , you are getting a hint from the GOD - it's nothing else but an infatuation. When it is love, there is an acceptance of imperfection and all other reasons seems to become immaterial.
A commitment to oneself can only lead to one's commitment to a relationship and to another person. Merely being in a relationship doesnt neccessiate the need for commitment . True commitment comes from the heart and it must be allowed to happen naturally. When you find someone with whom everything seems perfect , even though he/ she doesnt match your "must" list then it is a clear indication of being in love. It is always good to marry someone you truly love but love and marriage are two totally different things. Where love brings warmth, passion and meaning to life , there marriage brings responsibility and security. The decision of marriage should be be made with open eyes because it shapes your future and your life.
Whether it's a love marriage or arranged, it needs a commitment , trust and lot of understanding. If love is the foundation of marriage, then even little adjustments seems sweet gesture of love towards each other. But sometimes a marriage feels "right" even when there is no strong love , such is called an arranged marriage. In arranged marriages, love usually grows after marriage but there is always a risk of failure because adjustments would be easy only when the person would be in love with the other person otherwise it becomes a mere duty .
When ever you plan to settle down , the decision would never seem to be an easy one but what ever way you choose to go, make sure you do listen to your gut feelings and let love be the only reason for your relationship.
Love ,
Geetu :-)
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Refuse to quit!
Few people traverse a longer path to success . I believe they are luckier to have gotten an apportunity to learn something new on every step. It might not sound appealing to those who are going through the period of repeated failure but those who have sailed through this phase might agree with me.
Every failure is a learning experience. Every failure should teach you something that takes you one step closer to success. If you take things positively, you will look forward to learn from every good and bad experience. Sulking and cribbing your destiny wont do you any good. Someone might be getting success through wrong means but you are continually failing to do so. It is an indication that GOD thinks you have the caliber and you should get success by your own inner strength. GOD loves you and he is giving you a chance to improve yourself. (Lucky ppl..:-) ) . Ignore those who make fun of you and stay away from those who pity you. You do not need any of such nasty people.
There is more to life than failure in examinations. Such failures can not define anyone's worthiness. Lots of people think a person of worth is someone who is talented, smart, attractive or has earned success easily.Such things can not affect person's worth in front of GOD. The person who do not let any failure stir up bitterness in him , who do not get into dirty doings and who do not throw away his integrity might not be able to achieve worldly worthiness but he does acquire moral worthiness.
Success is important and it would come to you sooner or later. If you are traversing the longer path , think why you have been chosen to do do so ? What is that you need to learn on a way? Keep moving and never sit back with the fear of seeing another failure. Winning a competion is a small victory but to win at life you should refuse to quit.
I salute those who never give up and accept life and its challenges with a bright smile.! :-)
Love,
Geetu :-)
Every failure is a learning experience. Every failure should teach you something that takes you one step closer to success. If you take things positively, you will look forward to learn from every good and bad experience. Sulking and cribbing your destiny wont do you any good. Someone might be getting success through wrong means but you are continually failing to do so. It is an indication that GOD thinks you have the caliber and you should get success by your own inner strength. GOD loves you and he is giving you a chance to improve yourself. (Lucky ppl..:-) ) . Ignore those who make fun of you and stay away from those who pity you. You do not need any of such nasty people.
There is more to life than failure in examinations. Such failures can not define anyone's worthiness. Lots of people think a person of worth is someone who is talented, smart, attractive or has earned success easily.Such things can not affect person's worth in front of GOD. The person who do not let any failure stir up bitterness in him , who do not get into dirty doings and who do not throw away his integrity might not be able to achieve worldly worthiness but he does acquire moral worthiness.
Success is important and it would come to you sooner or later. If you are traversing the longer path , think why you have been chosen to do do so ? What is that you need to learn on a way? Keep moving and never sit back with the fear of seeing another failure. Winning a competion is a small victory but to win at life you should refuse to quit.
I salute those who never give up and accept life and its challenges with a bright smile.! :-)
Love,
Geetu :-)
Being oneself!
We admire few , we get intimidated by other few . To be right and popular, we follow the one who is never wrong and being made fun of. We start emulating their thoughts, choices and ultimately their lifestyle. Every person is endowed with their individual thoughts but we curb them with the fear of them not being liked by others. In the process, we start moving away from the real self. We do not let ourselves grow and learn with time and experiences . We develop a habit of aping others, we become dependent upon the decision of others , we do not develop our own perspectives and eventually we lose our identity.
The contentment in true sense can be achieved by being oneself. To be honest about your thoughts, your ideas, your likes and dislikes helps you develop into a person who is unique and only one in the world. Neither judge nor let others judge you for the way you think, the way you eat or for the things you like. Dont seek approval from others , but from GOD. Initially you might falter, make mistakes and fail in whatever you do but then with every failure you will have an apportunity to learn and grow which others might never come accross. The virtues of life can be imbibed in a person not through reading or observing others experiences but by going through one of his own. The person becomes independent , confident and learns to love himself .They are able to make their own decisions no matter what it leads to and at the end of the day they are content as they know they have a skill to make a decision and to learn from every wrong one.
I guess by now you must have realised how important it is to let your true self come out and let it bring joy, happiness and contentment to you. When we learn to value and accept oursleves , we learn to cope positively with our diabilities , we feel better about ourselves and others love us for who we are and not for what we can do.
In the end, i would like to put my favorite quote with this blog...
" To be oneself, and unafraid whether right or wrong, is more admirable than the easy cowardice of surrender to conformity. -Irving Wallace "
Love,
Geetu :-)
The contentment in true sense can be achieved by being oneself. To be honest about your thoughts, your ideas, your likes and dislikes helps you develop into a person who is unique and only one in the world. Neither judge nor let others judge you for the way you think, the way you eat or for the things you like. Dont seek approval from others , but from GOD. Initially you might falter, make mistakes and fail in whatever you do but then with every failure you will have an apportunity to learn and grow which others might never come accross. The virtues of life can be imbibed in a person not through reading or observing others experiences but by going through one of his own. The person becomes independent , confident and learns to love himself .They are able to make their own decisions no matter what it leads to and at the end of the day they are content as they know they have a skill to make a decision and to learn from every wrong one.
I guess by now you must have realised how important it is to let your true self come out and let it bring joy, happiness and contentment to you. When we learn to value and accept oursleves , we learn to cope positively with our diabilities , we feel better about ourselves and others love us for who we are and not for what we can do.
In the end, i would like to put my favorite quote with this blog...
" To be oneself, and unafraid whether right or wrong, is more admirable than the easy cowardice of surrender to conformity. -Irving Wallace "
Love,
Geetu :-)
With each passing day!
There are so many memorable moments worth cherishing!
As someone rightly said, add life to your days instead of adding days to your life . I have put this thought on my pin board.. tht should definitely brighten up my day.
As life moves on, we get busier with each passing day, with each passing year..... we begin to lose touch with old friends , family and ultimately with ourselves. When was the last time you did something you truly enjoyed doing ? When was the last time you had a hearty laugh? Very few among us might be able to answer all this correctly. We begin to blame our tight schedules , our work and many other things but we do not try to find out what could be done to improve our lifestyle.
Remember those days when the first rain used to bring smile on our face and we used to jump into it to get all drenched, thrill of floating our paper boats down the roadside stream, staying up all night with friends and cuzins just to spend some more moments with each other, frustration of completing assignments together in a coffee shop, crying before every exam.
Why have we stopped enjoying life today ??.... just because we have grown up, we have 1000 responsibilites on us, we have many problems to deal with.. We are running too fast to reach to a place which would only bring materialistc pleasures. Those pleasures will bring momentary happiness and what after tht??
Let us start discovering happiness in little little things. Let us make an effort to enjoy the work we do, the time we spend with friends and family . Do not let any problem, any task , anyone to stop you from being happy.Make a decision today that whatever happens with you, whatever you get, you will accept it and you will remain happy and enjoy each day to its full. Find out new ways to pamper yourself, take yor parents out on a dinner, go on a long drive ... Get a life!
We can not stop time, we can not bring back the good old days but we can make each day a memorable one if we begin to start enjoying life from today!
Love,Geetu :-)
As someone rightly said, add life to your days instead of adding days to your life . I have put this thought on my pin board.. tht should definitely brighten up my day.
As life moves on, we get busier with each passing day, with each passing year..... we begin to lose touch with old friends , family and ultimately with ourselves. When was the last time you did something you truly enjoyed doing ? When was the last time you had a hearty laugh? Very few among us might be able to answer all this correctly. We begin to blame our tight schedules , our work and many other things but we do not try to find out what could be done to improve our lifestyle.
Remember those days when the first rain used to bring smile on our face and we used to jump into it to get all drenched, thrill of floating our paper boats down the roadside stream, staying up all night with friends and cuzins just to spend some more moments with each other, frustration of completing assignments together in a coffee shop, crying before every exam.
Why have we stopped enjoying life today ??.... just because we have grown up, we have 1000 responsibilites on us, we have many problems to deal with.. We are running too fast to reach to a place which would only bring materialistc pleasures. Those pleasures will bring momentary happiness and what after tht??
Let us start discovering happiness in little little things. Let us make an effort to enjoy the work we do, the time we spend with friends and family . Do not let any problem, any task , anyone to stop you from being happy.Make a decision today that whatever happens with you, whatever you get, you will accept it and you will remain happy and enjoy each day to its full. Find out new ways to pamper yourself, take yor parents out on a dinner, go on a long drive ... Get a life!
We can not stop time, we can not bring back the good old days but we can make each day a memorable one if we begin to start enjoying life from today!
Love,Geetu :-)
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